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Not an introverted extrovert. The wording order of this is very important… I think. I am loud, I am friendly, I am bubbly and most people would say I come across as confident, even cocky, (which I find quite surprising!) But because of that I would have to put the extrovert in front of Introvert.
These terms are quite common. I know I’ve used them a few times to describe myself or others I’ve met throughout my life. But I never appreciated the full definition of them or how these descriptive personal characterises came to be; Carl Jung coined the terms.
I have put my ever popular definition box above that shows the dictionary definition of extroverts and introverts cause there doesn’t seem to be a universally agreed upon meaning for Extroverted Introvert or vice versa. However I changed one word. The dictionary.com definition for Introvert said it was a ‘shy’ person and I don’t necessary agree with that.
C. Jung emphasised that introverts get exhausted by social interaction whilst extroverts get anxious when left alone. Introverts need their alone time to recharge, whilst extroverts get energy from others. (This is further discussed in the Discover article called ‘Are the Brains of Introverts and Extroverts Actually Different?’ and is discussed in a more personal setting by blogger Hannah Witton ‘I’m an Introverted Extrovert’ who writes beautifully!).
Hannah talks about where someone gets their energy from, whether from alone time or group time. Where one gets their energy from determines which ‘trovert’ they are. (This isn’t a real word just a my own word for the spectrum that has EXtrovert on one side and INtrovert on the other!)
This talk of energy confused me at first. I was thinking bout my how my own energy dips and sours on both solitude and social situations. Ill give a for instance (like I stated in my previous post ‘men are ‘dicks’ and women are ‘pyschos’ I like to give/receive a for instance for statements or examples!).
A few weeks ago I went with JS to a hotness night in SWG3 and I was in a small club filled to the brim with people. I felt this influx of dancing energy. If anyone has ever heard of SWG3 it is NOT the type of place you go to with heels on. You just don’t. But since JS didn’t tell me we would be going there I was so not dressed appropriately. I managed to do the WHOLE night in heels, dancing and all. And those that know how painful heels are it takes a HUGE amount of energy to put up with it/endure.
The next day I had an equally amazing day chilling in my flat, doing my laundry, reading a book, editing photos. Not speaking to a single soul apart from Phoebe (my fur baby!). I felt content, zen and slightly buzzing. I like to have my alone time after a busy night out.
By the the second example you’d put me in the introvert camp but by the first one I definitely belong in the extrovert one! You hear these terms of extrovert and introvert as being camps on opposite ends of a distant spectrum.
Your either one or the other. You can not be both.
However, I am glad to see that even that notion of opposite camps mentality is dispersing.
In an article by D. L. Khim called ’19 Real Life Examples of An Extroverted Introvert So You Don’t Get Confused’ states that extroversion and introversion is a spectrum. It is like a gradient that you can lie anywhere along it; never being fully one or the other but a bit of both.
I agree with Khim. I am both.
Out of Khim’s 19 examples I have an incredibly strong affinity for 10 of these. I am such an extroverted introvert it is unbelievable.
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- We like hanging out one on one better than in groups. We’ll listen to you forever.
I couldn’t agree with this more. I absolutely love one to one chats with folk. That is my favourite thing about an after party. I love meeting new folk and listening to their stories. Or at work, when I used to work in retail I would really like to listen to other stories get to know them and their background.
2. We suck at responding to texts because sometimes we don’t want to talk – to anyone.
I am so so bad at getting back to people. Or because I’ve already thought the text out in my head and thought I’d sent it. I do not do it on purpose – not talk to anyone. But I do love my me time.
3. We’re open to meeting your other friends. Just let us know ahead of time that we’ll be meeting new people so we can mentally prepare ourselves to socialize.
This one isn’t as bad for me… but that is entirely dependant on the new people. If they are friendly or we have a bond over something that I can usually make the switch from socialising one to one to a group scenario. But if they aren’t nice or say something rude I become a mute.
For example, i remember when I was a teenager I used to work in a charity shop and I have friend called F. F and I were really close. F brought her friend down to see me at the charity shop and the girls name was H. H took one look at me turned to F and said “I don’t like speaking to ugly people” and laughed. I had no clue what to say. I think my face was like this; :O . F didn’t say anything and just smiled at H.
4. Despite needing our alone time, we do get lonely.
I ALWAYS get lonely. Sometimes when I am in my room with no friends to talk to or make plans with I get really sad and defeated. Like today… It is a beautiful sunny day (31 degrees! Hottest day of the year!) and I have no one to make plans with… or to chill in a park with. It’s times like these that make me feel like a loser that no one wants to hang out with.
5. We live in our heads even if it seems like we put ourselves out there.
I guess you guys figured this one out if you’ve read any of my posts! Ahaha I over analyse and over think almost everything. I even have daydreams a bout what-if scenerios. For instance, I like to daydream about what it would be like to happen to run into Zac Efron whilst am on holiday in America and he falls in love with my honest, Scottish self and we have a whirlwind romance that involves a lot of hill walking and pranks!
6. We bounce between wanting to be noticed for our hard work to panicking over the thought of somebody else paying more than 30 seconds of attention to us.
Yeah I don’t like attention… but I crave it. I like to look good, but I hate being stared at. I love being the centre of attention, sometimes I hog it… but I can hold it for so long and then I get nervous and want to disappear into a one to one conversation.
7. People think we’re flirtatious. We’re not.
I get this … way too much. I get accused of flirting when am not. And when I do want to flirt, I can’t. I have a really big problem flirting with guys I am very attracted to. Or find super hot. I just get very flustered and not sure what to say… or I end up saying something weird… like ‘do you ever have garlic bread and then you like the garlic-y burp you have later on cause then its like your tasting it again?’…. that tends to stop the conversation cold.
8. We really don’t like small talk.
I can’t have deep one to one conversations with guys i find hot because i am very intense and deep. I have found that hot guys, or rather guys I find hot, find my abhorrent or a ‘weirdo’.
9. We don’t actually have a staple“group” of friends.
I am a constant drifter. I have one, maybe if am very lucky two friends within one friend group. I am never the heart of a group I am just on the fringes of it. Having little heart to hearts with folk and then just chilling in the background.
10. If we like you, we really like you. We’re extremely picky about who we spend our time and energy on. If we’ve hung out multiple times, take it as a compliment.
This one is only partly true. I am not picky so much as I am incredibly annoying and only a certain amount of folk can put up with me for long periods of time! 😀 But yeah the friends I have I love them lots. I am so grateful and happy to be around them.
Are you an extroverted introvert or an introverted extrovert?
Thank you so much for reading lovelies!