Fashion,  Thoughts

Is porn ruining sex?

This blog post is coming at an appropriate time, with the impending Digital Porn Ban the UK government is initiating, is porn a bad thing? 

What is the Digital Porn Ban? 

Thanks to Jack I watched a youtube video from TLDR News that explains this ban brilliantly, and simply. Check it out here.

that explains this ban brilliantly, and simply.

To put it simple the Ban is to add age verification on most porn sites to be over the age of 18, not the whole click yes if you are over 18 but an actual verification of who you are, along with your age.

As I was reading the comments on the youtube one made a very valid point… why should the age for watching Porn be 18 and over when the legal age of consent and marriage is 16…

And that is so true. 

Why can it be legal to have sex, but not watch sex? Can legally get married for life but can’t legally explore sexuality? 

The UK legal system is a bit hunky dory. 

So this ban wants to stop people from viewing deemed ‘inappropriate’ content such as fisting and squirting.

Should such viewership be censored for young people? Of course… but another commenter says… this is a patental issue, not a government deemed one.

It shouldn’t be taken away or have people worried about watching porn – to have their identity recorded and their privacy breached all because the government views certain sexual acts as ‘inappropriate’. 

Does Porn ruin sex for girls?

I know a few girls that do not like porn, they find it demoralising or takes away the magic or the intrigue behind sex. Which … in a roundabout way… I kind of agree. 

It is so … easily accessible. 

And can be crude and be cringy. But watching porn doesn’t necessary mean that it ruins sex for girls.

Albeit I haven’t had an honest porn talk with girls because whenever porn is brought up amongst groups of girls it is met with the whole concentrating on the male audience – like how can men find that attractive? how can they want to do that? how can THEY find this hot…

So therefore it ends up being a talk on defending porn and its existence as opposed to talking about what girls can take from porn and how THEY AS WOMEN feel about it. 

I personally think watching porn is healthy, its good to explore different parts of your sexuality. And it is also good to know what turns oneself on just as a fantasy and what can be explored in real life. 

An idea can be a turn on. I find porn can give good ideas or help you realise the what the body can do. 

Like squirting… I had no clue what that was until Porn. That sort of information just isn’t shared during sex education. 

Which would’ve been a very handy thing to know. Squirting, is a good way for porn viewers to see the women is genuinely enjoying the sex they are having with men. 

Well thats what I think generally, it could be faked. But for me, I like to think its true. Or as true as porn can be. 


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What is Squirting?

Also known as female ejaculation.

The technicalities of squirting are this; the female’s urethra expels fluid during sex. 

It usually happens with a female becomes sexually aroused. Which can be helped with stimulating the elusive G Spot.

There are two different types of female ejaculation;

Squirting fluid – this tends be colourless and odorless. It can occur in large quantities.

Ejaculate fluid – this type more closely resembles male semen. It is typically thick and appears milky. 

For years scientist thought that squirting was a sign of incontentice and it was as recently as 2014 that studies show it wasn’t this but is an actual female ejaculation. 

There is more information on the squirting in Medical News Today. if you want to read about it.

It is more common than women realise, the above article says that between 10-50 of women experience this but it is shown in different ways. 

I used to think squirting could only be the squirting fluid, clear and like a waterfall. But everyones body is different, just like how you reach an orgasm is different and is unique to each individual – so is squirting.

Is watching Porn cheating?

In a nutshell? No. 

But I feel that depends on the TYPE of porn your partner watches, and who is in them. I remember an ex of mine really liked porn of girls with massive ta-tas and that mind me feel self conscious – not because of him watching porn – but because of him watching porn of someone that is so physically opposite to me that I questioned his attractiveness towards me. 

Is that him cheating? 

No.

If he was messaging a porn star, sending dick pics and asking for more nudes then that would be cheating. Because he is actively trying to engage with another person on a one-to-one basis with a sexual nature.

Thankfully since I’ve gotten with Jack that isn’t something that I need to worry about. 

I have no doubt that he watches porn, just like he knows I do. 

Do we think we’ve cheated on each other? Of course not. 

I have never understood why some girls get so angry about their partner watching porn, screaming about them cheating and getting upset about it.

I don’t think it is the act of watching porn itself that they are upset about, it is how it makes them feel about themselves when they do. 

Like what I expressed before, am I attractive enough? I am enough for my partner? 

I think it is insecurities that makes them so angry. Which is fair enough, no partner should willingly make their partner feel insecure. Or purposefully make their partner feel inadequate. 

Porn is something that can be shared with couples, even used to enhance their sex lives. To help give each other ideas on what can be done to, what can be explored, different tools to use…

Wouldn’t you agree?

In conclusion… 

The digital ban is imminent. 

After watching the youtube video I think you would agree with me it isn’t a good idea and a grave breach of our privacy. 

Porn can be a bit crude and in your face for girls, can be a bit intimidating but it can also be eye opening and educational.

Squirting is normal, and is a good way of your body physically showing how much you are enjoying the sex – and can be showed through two different types; Squirting and Ejaculating fluids.

Porn is not cheating, but it can force hidden insecurities to come alight. Especially when partners aren’t being honest in what they find attractive. 

Porn is porn, its fun, its private and its a single persons – man or women bff when you want to stay at home and have some self gratification.

 

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